Essay # 1: A Day at the Mall :)

     Why do us people go to malls ? There are many reasons why they do. First of, all people want to buy the things they want, clothes, shoes, and home appliances. All the material things we need can be found inside the mall. Secondly, maybe because they want to spend their time with their special someone, friends and family. Thirdly, maybe because they want to see their idols face to face. Lastly, people just go there to window-shop or to have fun. And I have my own reason too why i go to the mall.

     Going to the mall is one of my hobbies whenever I have leisure time. Even though I don't have money, i will still go to the mall just to relax. If I am going to describe my best day at the mall, probably you will imagine how happy my feeling is.  So let me tell you the reasons why I go to malls. The first reason why I go is because of my friends. My friends and I go to malls after school to relieve our stress and to have fun. We usually go to Mall of Asia  to play at the Timezone. We spend most of our time there to play some games.  After that we also eat at our favourite restaurant. I'm very thankful to have them because they make me happy. The second reason is my family. Me and my family go to malls to buy things that we need in our house. Then we also have our family lunch in the mall every Sunday.  We also watch movies together. And in the evening, we ride the vikings, the train and the bump car. I didn't even have a boring day a the mall because I always make the fun out of it.

      I really love going to malls. It makes me feel good and of course relax. I feel incomplete if I don't go to mall specially If I am bored. It makes me really sick when you know that others are having good time while you are really tired doing nothing at home. I will do any anything just to go to mall. If I can just walk, I will. But sometimes I am imagining myself going to the mall with my boyfriend.  I think that i will be very happy because it is my first time to go to the mall with a special someone. There is nothing wrong with going to the malls everyday unless we do abuse ourselves specially our health. We must know first the risks before doing something that can make you feel bad.

My AMAZING Siblings :)

     Most of us have our own siblings of different characters and attitudes. I wrote this blog because I want you all to know more about my siblings.

     She is my sister, Marnie Marie Valencia Parma. She is prettier than me, isn't it obvious ? She is now in fourth year high school. Studying at Fort Bonifacio High School. We don't look the same and I don;t know why. I think that she had already many boyfriends maybe she has a pretty face while me ZERO. Maybe She can wear sexy clothes while me is still praying to lose weight so the clothes will fit in my figure We do have the same tastes for clothes but not BOYS. To be honest, I feel some insecurity for her because of the things she have that I don't. Eventhough she has the looks and the body, at least I have the brain (not being boastful but that's the truth. But she is fond of studying. She strives hard just to pass,  In spite of our differences and my insecurities, I still love her. No matter what I do, we have same blood flowing in our bodies.

     While that boy is my brother, Ermar John Valencia Parma. He is also studying at the same school as my sister but he is in third year level. The naughtiest among us maybe because he is a boy. He is the best friend of my mother. Sometimes I tease him a gay but I know he is not. It's just a big joke. He is the laziest among us. Like me, he also has the little brain but he doesn't know how to use in a good way. He is not fond of studying not like my sister. Whenever they see each other, they are like a cat and a dog who always fight for a simple thing that is useless.Like other boys, he also loves to play video and internet games that really makes m sick. Sometimes, I tend to hate boys who never left computers just because of addiction in playing. My brothers is the one who gives fun in our house. 

     Yes, I can say that we are close but not that tight because I am living a little far from them. They are staying with my parents while me at my aunties's place. We have also similarities. The three of us love to dance specially my brother. I can say that he is really good at dancing. During weekends, I have the time to bond with them. Talking about topics that are really funny, watching movies together and going to other places. But most don't know that we have a little sister who is adapted by my father's brother because they don't have children. She is now 8 years old in Grade 3 level living at Malaysia. She has more brain than the three of us. Some of relatives say that she really looks like me, the body and the face. Most of the time, I am imaging that what if she is with us right now, she will be happy living with us ? When will she know that she is our real sibling? Does she feel that she is just an adapted child of my uncle? Questions are really scattered in my mind and I pray that all of my questions will be answered soon. I can't wait for the moment to come. 

     Let us be glad because we do have siblings . We are lucky because we have playmates since our childhood times. We have our companions. We have friends inside our homes. Let's just help praying for some who doesn't have one. Love your brothers and sisters. They are very important in your growing life. They will help if you need a hand. They will never leave you alone. Like your friends, they will also accept you for who and what you are. 

From a LITTLE Girl to a LADY...

     The sun shines so brightly and I was just a little girl who is wearing a barbie branded pink dress playing with my naughty friends at the playground. Enjoying our time playing at the slides and seesaws.  Making friends with other children accompanied by their mothers. I don' t care what the time is as long I am enjoying myself. I don't care whether my dress is dirty or full of mud as long I am with them. I don't care about the things I am doing, whether it is right or wrong. Then the rain fell down from the sky, I don't know what to do, if I am going to find a shelter or just go home. But the rain fell very badly and my parent's that time are not yet home. I decided just to continue playing. I really loved the rain. I was dancing and singing with the rain that really made my day complete but the rain had already stop. It is getting late, I went back to our home Mom scolded because I might get sick while father is just doing his office work. I went to my room and started crying because I didn't know that mom will scold that way and in fact I was just enjoying my self doing that. I was talking with my barbie doll. I said to her all my hard feelings. But I have realized that she is just a toy that will never talk to me. I fell asleep with the teardrops falling from my eyes. Another day has come, I went downstairs and saw mom preparing breakfast and I think that she is not mad at me now because when she saw me, she was smiling. I felt happy.

    

     I wake up and realized that I was just dreaming about my childhood days. I am not a little girl now. It seems that now is very different from the past. Now, I don't wear barbie branded dress. I don't play at playgrounds now. I don't play either the barbie dolls, I just play internet games. I can go wherever I want to without asking my parent's permission. I can do whatever I want. I know now what are the right and wrong things. I have now the thinking to all my decisions. Now I can chose a man who will I be with.  Then I was just simple things but now I am looking more than that. Then I was appreciating material things now I appreciate more the non material things, the things that will never lose in our lives. I am now more conscious to my physical appearance. I can say that I  am now a lady who a little class. 

     Happenings from the past will just become memories that we must treasure because once we have grown up, our experiences, characters and personalities will changed. Although there are some that will not change but it will be improved.  Some will be mature. We will know now what are the things that we must consider in life. Everything will changed and it is our choice if our change will be bad or good. Maybe things will be different but that's life, we don't have nothing else to do but rather accept it.

NEXT DOOR NEIGHBORS :)

     I know all of us have neighbors that do have different attitudes. There's the neighbor that you are really close with. When you have nothing to do, you will invite them to do some indoor or outdoor activities with them. The neighbor who is really killjoy that every time we do enjoy our parties, they will go out of their shelters and starts to shout to us saying " you guys are very noisy, can you please tone down the music or lower your voices". And in some instances, they will call some barangay officials for them to scold us and ask if we could just stop our party. That really sucks you know. But there are some who are just happy go lucky.  They are just going with the flow. And there are some that don't even care. They don't even know what is happening already to their neighbors.  Whether we like it or not, we have our neighbors, our companion in community events and stuff. 

     When I was still in first year high school, I was living together with my family, I can describe that our neighbors are very lively and  hyperactive. At that place, we do have our own business, not really the business that we can earn for a living, its the business that we don't want to be part of or distract others. I remember that whenever Christmas times come, we always have a big party in our streets. We are enjoying our company with each other. I have also a group there. And I really liked living there. But as a grow, gradually I am losing the interest going out of our house then bond with my friends. I started to focus first on my studies that I don't have anymore time to be with them. After arriving from school, I will just to my school stuff and rest after I have finished my works. Every time that we see each other, I am starting to feel the awkward feeling. We do talk but for important reasons and most of the time, just a couple of minutes. There comes also many issues about me not going out of our house. 

     But now, I am in my first year college, my parents and I decided that I will now live at my auntie's house this time because it is nearer at my school that I could just walk from the house to my school. I am now living in a place where the atmosphere is somehow quite different from the other. Our neighbors is not fan of going out of their house. I think that they are busy making money  They will just go out if they' re going to other places. They will not go out just to bond with their other neighbors. They do have parties but not that noisy and lively as ours. We do have a neighbor who are very killjoy that I want to kill them (but killing is immoral), whenever we have parties, there is always a barangay cab who are stopping by and telling that they are some who are complaining because we are very noisy but no one will stop. We know our limitations and we know also when to stop. I am now adapting a new culture from a new place. Lucky I am, because I did not experienced culture shock maybe because I always got to stay at my auntie's place every vacation. 

     I am happy that we have neighbors because if we don't have them, maybe there will be a disaster in our place. I think that we will have a boring atmosphere. Let just be glad that we ALL do have our own neighbors. We have the chance to interact with different people of different attitudes and characters. As a verse from the bible, LOVE YOUR NEIGHBORS AS YOU LOVE YOURSELF. 

18 things to consider while YOUNG !

     Learning ? What is learning ? In my own words, learning is a way of acquiring knowledge from others or based on your own personal experiences. It is useless if it doesn't have purpose. It is very useless when you don't know how to apply it in real life. It is very useless without sharing it to others. Speaking of sharing, I just want to share some knowledge I have learned from a Discipleship Training in our church.

     Last June 7, 2012, we had a discipleship training in our church whereas we are trained how spread spiritual virtues to others specially the youth of today. We are learning many things from this training like serving God respectfully and with commitment. We earn knowledge that we can really use in the future. Things that may help other youth to deepen more their relationship with God. I have just felt that I will not let midterms come without sharing these or write it as a blog. And these are the lessons that I want to share to others. THE 18 THINGS TO CONSIDER WHILE YOUNG.

   1. Take care of your teeth.
   2. Take care of your skin.
   3. Eat a lot.
   4. Learn to swim.
   5. Learn to dance.
   6. Learn your GRAMMAR well.
   7. Finish your schooling.
   8. Be in right course.
   9. Learn fractions and percentage.
   10. Learn computers.
   11. Get a masters degree.
   12. Make a lot of good friends.
   13. Enjoy your family.
   14. Make friends with your brothers and sisters.
   15. Attend parties.
   16. A void dangerous activities.
   17. Avoid premarital sex.
   18. Put GOD first in everything that you do.

     I am sorry if I did not put any explanations. It does not mean that I am too lazy to type my explanations or I don't know how to explain this things. I just  want to leave a challenge to everybody who are going to read my blog specially the teenagers. I want you all to know by yourselves why we must consider that 18 things. Like what i have said learning can come from others and of yourself. The others is ME, and I have shared these things to you. you, yourselves will know the reasons why just by your own personal experiences. And yes, check all the things that you are already doing and you have. For the ones you did not put a check, try your best to do those things because I know that it benefit you all. I hoped that you will learn from these things. .

My SUMMER Plans

      According from my source, summer is one of the seasons of  a year which is the warmest and it falls between the seasons of spring and autumn. But for me, it is the best part of a year anyone can have. When the end of a school year comes, everyone are talking about of what are their plans for summer. Some are planning to look for a summer job, attend workshops, go for outing with their family and friends and some are just staying in their homes. Imagine a season full of love and sweetness, flying butterflies, blooming flowers and warm breeze.

      Last summer was not that exciting but it was a little fun. I attended the SMART workshop of Mayor Jun Binay, I chose the badminton training because I want to lose weight but unfortunately it did not happen. I was hoping that time, badminton training is effective. But I have learned a lot of things that I am applying now. It was not just a training of skills but also a training of self-discipline. For next summer, there are so many plans that I want to do. One of these is I want to look for a summer job. I want to spend my summer with a big purpose. I know that summer jobs can help me earn money for another my second year in college. I want to help my parents.  I don't want them to worry about the tuition fee that we will pay so I can enroll again. And of course, I want to earn for my future. Summer jobs can also be a training for me for my future jobs and I'm sure that with this kind of job I will meet different types of people. I want also to attend again workshops and trainings because I want o be physically fit and I loving and enjoying these kind of stuff. I am planning also an outing for BM 121 because the last time we planned an outing, the day before it was postponed. And if I have more time, maybe we will go out of town with my whole family so that we can bond with each other after a successful school year.

       Summer is one of the best timing to bond with our friends and family. In this season, we have the chance to relax our minds and body. We can escape from a room full of stress and problems. We can go wherever we want to. We can do whatever we want. We can relax whenever we want. Let us not waste our summer doing worthless things but rather spend it with the warmth of our love and sweetness of our lives. Cherish the precious moments. Make your summer the best of it.

SEX EDUCATION: Not a Subject in Schools

     According to the internet, sex education is a study that relates to human sexuality, which includes sexual anatomy, sexual reproduction,  sexual intercourse, reproductive health, emotional relations, reproductive rights and responsibilities, abstinence, birth control, and other aspects of human sexual behavior. The real target of this issue are the students and said that is must be added to the curriculum in schools. This issue can make a big difference to the people who are affected by this. Sex education should not be implemented. 

     Sex education is a big rat in our society. It will just destroy the little young minds of the students. Think of the situation, what IF sex education will be implemented? The students, instead of studying the real lessons, they will just focus on the sex education because we all know that the word SEX is really a distraction. What is the purpose of family planning if we are going to implement this? Sex education must be taught at their homes by their parents because they know best. The parents should be the one who will clear things out. We know that the first school of the children is their home. We don’t even know if the lessons taught at schools are right. And because of their curiosity, they might try the things they are learning from school. They are wondering how does it feel to be in that situation.

Nowadays, population continue to increase. In order for us to prevent this from growing, many alternatives are created. One of them is the sex education. For example, if 4 out of 10 students know about sex education, maybe our population will gradually decrease. If we are going to implement sex education, I can say that it can really help. Imagine if the students will be engage with this study, they will know how important our sexual parts are. If we will teach students about this, guarantee that teen pregnancy will decrease because it is one of the major problems of teenagers in this generation. It can help to decrease birth rate and specially the death rate. In some statistics, whenever a child is born, one child dies. If we don't implement sex education, there will be no space left for others. There will be a shortage of our  basic needs.

     Parents should be the one to teach sex education not the teachers to further the learning of a student. These days, because of our world that is liberated, children are now being exposed to the unrealistic nature of sex. Sex education is not the way to educate our children. There are many simple ways that can help. Guiding our children while watching television can help a lot just by clarifying topics that are not meant to be watch by the children. But we cannot forced the parents to teach their children. It is their choice if they're going to teach their children. Teenagers nowadays are stubborn, they don't even listen to their parents. They think that they know all things about it because they are one who are experiencing it. Sometimes teenagers just learn from their own. 

     Before we go to our decision, we should know first the stands of both sides. Think of what will happen if sex education will be implemented, Yes, it may help to decrease the growing population and stop the spreading of sexual intercourse disease but like I have said, it will the fresh mind of the children. It is not the right time for them to know about that delicate topics. On the other hand, if  sex education is not implemented, our population will continue to blow. 

   

    As a conclusion, I will stand my decision. Sex education should not be implemented. Everything will just come to its worse. The real learning and discipline is up to us, we are the one who controls ourselves not contraceptives, planning, and not even sex education. The future is in our hands. 

The REAL Competition :">>

“Competitions has been shown to be useful up to a certain point and no further, but cooperation, which is the thing we must strive for today, begins where competition leaves off.”  - Franklin D. Roosevelt

 “Nobody’s going to win all the time. On the highway of life you can’t always be in the fast lane.” – Haruki Murakami

 “Competition brings out the best in products and the worst in people.” – David Sarnoff

 I opened our wifi modem, turned on the laptop, clicked the google chrome button, went to Sir Dustin's  blog dashboard, chose for my topic, started searching quotations about COMPETITION, collected ideas, made a draft and now typing my blog.  I chose the topic , how do I feel about competitions ? because there are many ideas that comes out through my mind.  And as I search on the quotations about the topic, there are three quotations that really captured my attention so I decided to include those on my blog.  I can say that these quotations can inspire or motivate an individual to make him or her prove that she is different from the others and just enjoy the competitions he or she is joining. 

Senior Slayer Basketball and Volleyball Girls Team

  

Math Jingle Competition

Junior Titans Basketball Team Girlls

Siyensayawan 2011

Federation of Student Government of Makati Jingle Competition

When I was in high school, I am a fan of joining group competitions. Competitions that made my confidence to grow, made me knew what I can really do, help me improved my talents and of course, taught me how to deal properly with other competitors. Competition is not competition without pressures, misunderstandings and wars. During competitions, I have felt all the emotions. The happiness every time we win, the loneliness every time we lose, the pressure in all of us and the fun when we bond with each other. I remember back then, every time that our Intramurals occurs, all of the students in our school are really busy doing there stuffs like practice for the cheer dance, training for basketball and volleyball and buying props and costumes for our batch. I even experienced having overnight the day before the competition and when the day came, we all danced with sleepy heads, without presence of mind that led to our defeat. I even felt the pain throughout my body that I can't moved because of the whole training for the ball games. I even paid a lot of money just to buy our costumes, jerseys, etc. And I've even sacrificed my studies just to put all my time just for the competition. I have experienced also the batch wars. Cramming is very popular that time. I have a prediction then " when we CRAM, we always WIN". But it is just a belief for us, we all know that we win because we have the passion to do what we are going to do, the presence of mind during the performance, heart for what we do, the mindset to our goal  and the cooperation and unity we possessed. 

   For me the award that anyone can receive rather than the real awards is the FRIENDSHIP made inside the circle of competition even though they are our competitors but outside that circle, we enjoy the company with them and we also have fun bonding with them. I always keep to my mind that every competition is like a FRIENDLY- COMPETITION. Win or Lose, it doesn't matter, matters most is the lesson you have learned from that wonderful experience. Always remember that competitions are not made to have wars. Make the fun out of it. 

Example video of one jingle competition I've joined : Math Jingle Finals

My Non- Living Thing BEST FRIEND :)

     We all know that desks are just material things that we can see in offices, establishments, and most specially schools. Desks are very helpful to mankind. But what is a desk and what is the importance of having this in our daily lives ? Basically, the definition of a desk is piece of furniture typically having a flat or sloping top for writing and often drawers or compartments. It's either made of a wood or a metal. Desks have different importances  It depends on where or when it is used but usually students are the ones who always use desks. According to the website ehow.com, this kind of furniture is important not only for the comfort and aesthetics of those who are using it but for the function it serves within the classroom environment. It helps people to write very well in terms of handwriting and of course to write with concentration. But there is a question that always flies to my mind every time I see desks in classroom,  WHAT IF DESKS CAN TALK TO US ?

     If desks could really talk, I could imagine one of  them as a teenage boy named DESKSter who always yells to young pretty girls every time they are hurt physically. Maybe he is already mad at me because I always put many things on top of him. He would have scolded me either like my mother if I am letting anyone sit on him even if he is not a chair. And if he could really really talk, probably he is my best friend now. WHY ? He is always there every time I feel sleepy, I'll just lay my head on him, take a nap and imagine that he is my pillow. Whenever I feel I'm crying, I'll just cry on him and he will catch those shed of tears running through my eyes. If I have problems, he might give me some pieces of advice. If I am bored, he will let me write stories, songs, etc. on him even if it is not the right thing to do. But I have stopped it since it is not the proper thing to do. When I was in high school, I always feel sorry for him whenever I see stupid writings written on him. If I am angry, he will allow me to punch him. If I am scared during the night, I will hide under him and protect me. And every time I am in my serious mood studying and doing my school works, he will not do things just to disturb me but instead will help me to improve my work with his fictitious ideas. If I'm having a hard time carrying heavy things, he will sacrifice himself and let me put those heavy things on him. If I am happy, he will be there for me and share a bunch of laughters. He is one the people behind my success of my tests and assignments. He is the type of best friend that I can really lean on. He is the best friend I've ever had in my entire life.

     I know he is our ideal best friend but we are living in a world of reality, my best friend, DESKSter is not a human, he is just a non living thing that will never talk, will never laugh and will never share feelings with me. The real lesson from this is, even though they are just material things, we must also consider how they are important to humans. Let us use these things in a proper way. Desks never left us behind. We must remember that in every success of ones' lives, desk is the place where we first collected ideas, took down the notes, made the draft of our story, and finalized our goals.